The Drama Triangle – Part 4

The Drama Triangle to understand (and change) dysfunctional relationships

Can  you identify a Persecutor, a Rescuer and a Victim?

Take the quiz and check your knowledge of the Drama Triangle…

Do these stereotyped situations represent a Rescuer, a Persecutor or a Victim’s role?
Click on the right answer.
At the end click FINISH and you will see the correct answers with your result. 


#1. Someone lacking self-confidence and complaining a lot.

#2. Someone feeling uncomfortable, guilty, angry or helpless after a conversation.

#3. Sandra gave a heavy sigh. "Frankly, I am in a bit of a spot. That's why I'm ringing you - I can't tell you how relieved I was when you answered the phone. Everyone else I know in London seems to be out or has moved. I suppose I ought to have expected it on Christmas Eve. So - I've phoned you to throw myself on your mercy." (in: Don't leave me this way, Joan Smith, p.2-3)

#4. A man abusing a woman.

#5. A doctor working overtime without being paid or compensated.

#6. Calimero, the black chick from an Italian cartoon, always saying: “It’s totally unfair.”

#7. An alcoholic or a drug addict.

#8. A father doing his daughter’s homework.

#9. The partner of an alcoholic or a drug addict.

#10. A person never saying no.

#11. A boss criticizing an employee in front of colleagues.

#12. A battered woman.

#13. An employee lashing out verbally at his / her son after having been unfairly criticized by the boss.

#14. A person feeling obliged to do something although he or she doesn’t feel like it.

#15. Someone investing more time, effort, money and energy in a project than the other person.

#16. A mother getting depressed when her children leave the nest.

#17. A father telling his son: “You are really stupid!”

#18. A self-sacrificing mother, devoted to her children, without time for a personal life.

#19. A child throwing a tantrum in a shop when the mother refuses to buy sweets.

#20. „She seems to be rather in a mess, she rang and said her flat was flooded and she’s got nowhere to sleep. So I said she could stay here... Look, I am sorry, I don’t want her here either – to be absolutely honest, I don’t even like her...“ (in: Don't leave me this way, Joan Smith, p.7)



If it’s not clear, read part 1 of this blog. There, you will find the 3 roles explained in great detail. You can also peruse the next blogpost where all the information is summarized in a chart.

Feel free to send a message or an email with your doubts or questions. I am more than happy to answer.


  • Summary in a chart
  • Useful information
  • Acknowledgements

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